A Godly marriage is one built on faith, faith in God’s promises and help. It is not God changing your spouse it is God changing you.
We have to put Christ first in our marriage, serve Him above all else.
Submit to His authority over us, our spouse our children, our homes , our finances, our careers, there is nothing we should hold back.
The desires of our heart should be to walk with Christ everyday, and for our families to follow, if you want a Godly marriage it starts with you surrendering all your heart, mind, body and soul to Christ, if you’re not willing to start here then ask God to change you and help you, if you don’t then things will never change.
Ask God to make you more Christ like, to give grace freely as you have received it, to guide you with wisdom to forgive as you have been forgiven, to love as He loves you, then watch as Christ manifest Himself in your character.
God’s word is clear, it is our flesh that kicks against the things God says, we put ourselves first, this is why marriages are in trouble today, everyone does what is right in their own eyes.
You and I cannot change the hearts of another, we cannot change our own hearts, but Christ can. If you have been married 50 years or newly married learn this secret, surrender yourself , your family, your household to Christ everyday and watch what He will do.
Christ sacrificially loves us, we should do the same in our marriages, this means putting Christ first, our spouse then ourselves, love and respect are given by grace through Christ to each other.
God’s word says this;
“Trust in the Lord and do what is good; dwell in the land and live securely. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act, making your righteousness shine like the dawn, your justice like the noonday.” Psalms 37:3-6 CSB
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord, because the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives are to submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her to make her holy, cleansing her with the washing of water by the word. He did this to present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or anything like that, but holy and blameless. In the same way, husbands are to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hates his own flesh but provides and cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, since we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This mystery is profound, but I am talking about Christ and the church. To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband.”
Ephesians 5:22-33 CSB
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